Sunday, November 30, 2008

Holiday Chronology

I am very resistent to having my holidays stuck in the fast forward mode. Who hijacked the holiday time lines? Was it retailers in general or Hallmark or the USPS for making everyone shop early to ship early?

Maybe it's the three pounds of advertising that comes with the Thanksgiving paper inciting people to abandon logic and any reference to the religious reason for Christmas while marketing shopping mania of the worst sort?

This year seems to be the scariest ever. I certainly was horrified to learn of the poor man opening the doors to a WalMart only to be tramplled to death by the throngs of beserk shoppers. The bigger horror..... maniacal shoppers who refused to leave the scene upon police orders to do so because....they had been standing in line for hours to shop and someone dying before their eyes should not interfere with their pursuit of posessions! Dear God, what has happened to humanity?

When Mermaid was still here in the pond with us we struggled to keep her clear headed on things we felt were important and what we thought was not. We, like most families, were on occasion confronted with a teen who was confusing "want" with "need". From early on we expressed to her our beliefs on discretionary funds being spent on experiences rather than posessions. Mermaid does a perfect imitation of me saying, " experiences last forever, posessions are temporary"!
So you can magine some of the labels that were banners of acceptance and belonging to many of her classmates, were never under a tree at our pond. Certainly we never stood in line at any store to acquire her wish list.
Given our teachings and practices around here, I wonder if we have prepared Mermaid for a world no longer in existence except in the memories of the elders.
I pray not!

It is not just the shopping mania and the time push for shopping which disturbs me. There is also that "Black Friday" label which disturbs. I get that it is about getting a store or manufacturer out of the red ink and into the black ink...but really "Black Friday" for me means the blackest of human behaviors. Certainly that WalMart story is pretty damn black. Somehow "Black Friday" has come to mean everything Christmas is NOT!

In our region there seems to be a consolidation of holidays smushed together from Halloween to Christmas. I guess I am old fashioned as I like my holidays to be individual events. I have neighbors who think differently. Their Thanksgiving activity is to put up their Christmas tree and deck their halls, bushes, windows and rooftop. They spend Christmas afternoon taking it all down.

Maybe I'm just disorganized. I cannot imagine attempting to produce a Thanksgiving feast and deck my halls on the same schedule!

These same neighbors once asked me why I put my tree up so late and leave it up so long? I tried to tell them about my preference for separation ie: Thanksgiving is an American holiday, celebrating the beginings of this great country. Christmas is a worldwide birthday celebration for Jesus, and the beginnings of Christianity. They laughed me off saying " how silly, it's the holidays, plural". Well okay. However I expect I will continue to decorate my tree in mid-December and leave it shining a light till the 12th day of Christmas as is my custom. My neighbors are able to tolerate this difference with grace...they don't object to my timeline they just think it is strange.

Makes a fishy want to hang out in the depths of the pond.!
On the day after Thanksgiving I try my best to extend the family ties. We eat leftovers, we companionably read in the same room, we may play a game or two, watch a little football, eat too much, sometimes we go for a bike ride or a mountain hike, but we do not start our Christmas shopping in the midst of our Thanksgiving weekend!.

For me, this weekend is the start of the Advent season, which I still cling to as a time for preparation. Not as a time to shop. I think of the need for mankind to well, think about mankind, to count blessings not packages, to be grateful for our real gifts of love, family, friendship. These days if you speak of things like traits, or talents as "gifts" you are looked at with wonderment that you should be so out of touch with the here and now. Ouch! Does this mean I've reached the stage of being an anachronism in my own time?

Perhaps. But this morning, at my little church, I was comforted by the announcements. The men's club is collecting coats, hats, scarves, gloves for the homeless. Another group is urging extra voices to join in for the Christmas Choir. The grannies group is seeking donations of fabric scraps and yarns so they can continue to make lap quilts for residents of the veterans hospital. Our teens are in charge (this year) of the food for families drive. They are shocked to learn there are families within our own congregation who will be recipients of this traditional gift. These things, for me, represent the preparation aspect of the season. Preparing to meet the needs of others doesn't always come in beautiful paper with a bow adornment but it surely is a present.

This is also the weekend of the Christmas angel tree. This is one timeline moved forward with which I do not argue. They must do the angel tree early to have time to make ....adjustments in case an angels Christmas is missing. Sometimes an angel will be plucked from the tree but for some reason is never returned with gifts attached. I cannot believe anyone would purposely do this but sometimes little ones reach out and grab an angel while other family members are making their selections. I am sure you know of these Angel trees. Cut out construction paper angels on which is written, in careful block lettering, a child's name, age , needs and Christmas wishes. Those who can, pluck an angel from the tree with the understanding they will meet the expectations of this child's Christmas needs. It is a child we never meet, never see a picture of, never know if we filled a heart with joy, will never know if we have helped to renew a child's belief in God on Christmas morning.

This year, I have "Maria". Her angel is purple and pink, her lettering is lacking good control but then she is just 7 .
The rest of the information is:
size 2 shoe,
size 10 clothing
really wants a bike.

This is all I know about Maria.

In an effort to get things right, I will ask the 7 year old daughter of a friend to be my consultant on this mission. Which bike does she really like, which shoes are "cool" this year, which colors and styles are favored in this age group? I will find the things on Maria's list and I will supplement from there. I will buy her a book about the meaning of Christmas and the history of Saint Nicholas. I will likely buy her a coat, gloves, hat so she will be able to ride that new bike before spring! I will buy and fill a stocking for her and I will provide a big box of chocolates for her to share with her family.

I will do my best to be a good secret Santa to Maria. I will hope for Maria to understand goodness in the world is a really big gift! And I will pray Maria's beautiful new bike will not be in a pawn shop on December 26th.


Aunty Belle said...

Folks done fergot the phrase, "keeping Christmas"

Reckon we's kin 'cause Aunty doan go to no mauls(heh) (see post on Front Porch) an the trees doan come down one minute afore Epiphany--a day what comes in JANUARY so thar is 12 days of Christmas.

I'se long thought that the day would come when the commercialization of Christmas would nauseate folks and we'd git back to THE REAL MEANING OF CHRISTMAS.

Thanky fer a wunnerful post.

fishy said...

Aunty Belle,
Always nice when you splash in at our pond! Nice to know I am not alone in this and am actually hoping there are millions more of us! Like you,
I don't do "Mauls" with or without elevators! But, what I do try to do is shop locally in my trying to recapture itself downtown area, local art-artisan galleries and studios, local farms for their prize wining jams, jellies, vinegars, relishes, etc. and I give gifts to my clients from a local grower of miniature Christmas Trees which I decorate to match their decor. Glad you had a great family Thanksgiving.

Squarehead said...

Well fishy. Sounds like you got it down. Christmas is alive and well in your pond.

Anonymous said...

Etch "Maria" on the bike so the pawn shop won't want it.

fishy said...

Squarehead, nice to hear from you again. Glad to know you are a Christmas keeper!

Graet idea, I think Blowfish has a tool that etches on metal!

Jenny said...

I do love your "sermons" Fishy - and appreciate your desire to go beyond the ridiculous advertising and commercialization of the "Holidays" to something deeper. I walked through a store on November 1st and heard Christmas music... I immediately felt as if I was already late (for what??) and decided to leave the store. I prefer to shop online and only go downtown in mid-December to look at lights and enjoy the energy, but not the shopping.

It seems people rush through their Holiday activities, checking items off a big list, but never slowing down to actually appreciate and enjoy what it all really means.

fishy said...

Sermons! OMG, I'll have to work on that. I do try, as I suspect you do as well, to live an authentic life.

Anonymous said...

(aka Gypsy)

I've just been reading back a bit and came across this post. I just had to comment because it really touched me.

What a wonderful post and you definitely have the right idea. Bless you for doing that for little Maria. No child should ever have to go without EVER but especially at Christmas. You have just inspired me to do the same thing this Christmas.